What defines our Baby

What defines our baby is nothing else that anyone else has. It is the same thing that defines me or Heather or any one of us. What defines each one of us is what we believe in, how we act, what we say; all of which comes from the inside. Just because our baby may look different for a little while does not mean that is what we need to look at. By letting people in our family know about our baby's cleft does not mean we are looking for sympathy or anything of that sort. We are going to love our baby no matter what, and we just ask that anyone else does the same. Why us humans like to dwell on the negatives, no one knows, but for our baby we ask that you look at what really defines him/her; the inside. We don't mind talking about the bad, but I do like talking about the good.
Maybe my first two blogs were kind of dark, and so was the beginning of this one. But, from here on out, the focus will be upon the greatest little thing that ever happened to me. Of course I will not leave out anything and some blogs you will probably realize that I needed to vent, but it will still be a good road map of Our Little One.

Trying to Answer Questions

I don't know what questions people may have about this, but maybe one of the biggest questions is: Can we do anything about it? The answer is yes. They can do surgery to fix both cleft lip and palate. Although we do not believe our baby has cleft palate at this time, we can only prepare for the worsed and pray for the best. Most of the time babies born with cleft lip and palate live to be normal, if not ahead of the game because they have some special that most people do not. Through this blog I encourage people to ask questions and also to pass this along. There is already a strong community amoung families with cleft, but I am out to make it even stronger.
I already want to send out thanks to our family. It is really in time of crisis that you see your families true colors, and I can't say enough about the Frost's, Jenson's, Adam's, Begley's, Haefele's, Holme, and the list continues as we get this awesome support. We love you guys so much and appreciate everything you have already done.
One more question we have already got is: What can I do to help? Right now everything people have been doing is what we need; Thoughts and Prayers! We love and appreciate all of them. Like I said before, God has this under control and will provide us with the path we need to take in order to make things great.
Again, I encourage questions and/or comments, and I also encourage this blog to be past along.

The First

So on December 21, 2007 my beautiful wife and I walk into Denver Health to get our first Ultra-sound. We had high hopes to go through without any problems, and since we have been living right and doing everything we were supposed to, we didn't have anything to worry about. The first part of our ultra-sound was great. We did not want to find out the sex, and since that was one of the first questions from our sonogrammer, she didn't even look in the general area. We saw the feet, the arms, and heard the heart beat again; it was awesome. The second part of our ultra-sound did not come to be all that fun. The wonderful lady doing our ultra-sound told us that she was trying to look at something towards the nose and mouth. In both me and Heather's mind, we already knew what she was trying to look at. She said she was not sure if she was seeing anything so she was going to go and get the attending doctor. By the end of it they had three different opions about our baby having Cleft Lip. They took a look at the palate and did not see anything of concern at this point. The doctor automatically refered us to Children's Hospital of Denver. I am very thankful that we live in this region because of Children's Hospital. This blog will be about our journey as we go through the ups and the downs of our beautiful little baby having cleft lip.

"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart. Lean not unto thine own understanding but in all thy ways acknowledge Him and he will direct your path." (Proverbs 3:5-6)

We have no idea why this is happening with us, but at least we can have confidence that our God is in control of everything. And since any reason He might be able to give us would probably not be good enough, all we can do is Trust in Him.